Surviving Domestic Abuse

Domestic abuse can happen to anyone, but Black women, including professionals and students, may face unique challenges. This guide provides practical tips and emergency services information tailored to your specific needs across the UK, US, Canada, Australia, and Europe.

Recognising Domestic Abuse

Domestic abuse includes physical, emotional, psychological, sexual, and financial abuse. Recognising the signs is the first step to seeking help:

Physical Abuse: Hitting, slapping, pushing, or any form of physical harm.
Emotional/Psychological Abuse: Insults, threats, manipulation, or isolation.
Sexual Abuse: Any non-consensual sexual contact or coercion.
Financial Abuse: Controlling your finances, restricting access to money, or misusing your financial resources.

What To Do If You’re Experiencing Abuse

Acknowledge the Abuse:

Trust your instincts. If something feels wrong, it probably is.
Document instances of abuse. Keep a journal or take photos if it’s safe to do so.

Create a Safety Plan:

Identify safe areas in your home where you can escape to.
Have a list of contacts you can trust.
Memorize or keep a list of emergency phone numbers.

Gather Important Documents:

Keep your passport, ID, financial records, and any legal documents in a safe place or with someone you trust.

Reach Out for Support:

Talk to trusted friends, family, or colleagues.
Connect with community organisations that understand your cultural background and specific needs.

Emergency Services Information

United Kingdom:

National Domestic Abuse Helpline: 0808 2000 247 (24/7 helpline)
National Centre for Domestic Violence (NCDV) emergency injunctions service
Sistah Space – Black women’s domestic abuse charity

United States:

National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 (24/7 helpline)

Canada:

National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-363-9010 (available 24/7)

Australia:

1800RESPECT: 1800 737 732 (24/7 helpline)

Europe:

European Union-Wide: 112 (general emergency number)
France: National Domestic Violence Hotline – 3919
Germany: “Hilfetelefon” Violence Against Women – 08000 116 016

Unique Considerations for Black Women at Work and on Campus

Cultural Sensitivity:

Seek out support services that understand your cultural and racial background.
Consider reaching out to Black student or professional networks for guidance and support.

Privacy Concerns:

Be aware of confidentiality policies in your workplace or educational institution.
Utilise anonymous helplines and online resources if privacy is a major concern.

Navigating Systemic Barriers:

Be prepared for potential biases in the legal and healthcare systems.
Advocate for yourself or bring a trusted ally when seeking help from authorities.

Mental Health Support:

Address the mental and emotional toll of abuse by seeking culturally competent therapists who are trained in treating trauma.
Connect with local or online groups for Black women survivors.

Practical Support

Workplace Resources: Many companies have Employee Assistance Programmes (EAP) offering confidential support. Check out our list of workplace resources.
Campus Resources: Universities often have counselling services and support groups.
Legal Aid: Seek legal advice to understand your rights and options. Check out our list of workplace resources.
Financial Independence: Open a separate bank account, if possible, and secure your financial assets.

Long-term Planning

Secure Housing: Research shelters and housing programmes.
Employment Support: Look for job placement programmes and career coaching.

Empowerment and Advocacy

Share Your Story: If safe, sharing your experience can empower others and contribute to broader change.
Advocate for Change: Get involved with organisations working to combat domestic violence in the Black community.

Surviving domestic abuse is a difficult journey, but you are not alone.

Reach out for and to the resources and services available to you, and remember that your safety and well-being are paramount. Empower yourself with knowledge, seek support from your community, and take decisive steps towards a safer future.